I want to be rich, because I like nice stuff. But what I value far more is being wealthy, because I think independence is one of the only ways money can make you happier. The trick is realizing that the only way to maintain independence is if your appetite for stuff – including status – can be satiated. The goalpost has to stop moving; the expectations have to remain in check. Otherwise, money has a tendency to be a liability masquerading as an asset, controlling you more than you use it to live a better life.